What are Core Memories and Do They Matter?

Q&AINDIVIDUAL MENTAL HEALTH
Written By Peachey Counselling

Have you seen #CoreMemory all over TikTok and Instagram and wondered what a core memory actually is?

At its most basic definition, memories refer to the information we have retained throughout the years that can shape our understanding of the present world. "Core memories," in particular, refer to a specific set of memories that hold more emotional value. Some examples of core memories might be your wedding day, graduation, loss of a loved one, first kiss, or even a car accident.

But how important are core memories in our development, and can you really pick and choose what you want to become a memory later on, as the trend suggests? We will dive into this concept and unpack the idea of core memories.

Q: What are “core memories”?

A: When looked at scientifically, core memories are best described as emotional memories that resurface when that emotion becomes dominant.

However, the concept of core memories is not rooted in science but rather stems from the 2015 Pixar movie, 'Inside Out.' In this movie, an 11-year-old girl, Riley, is driven by five emotions in her brain that are all characterized by a significant memory. This movie has done a great job teaching its viewers the importance of memories; however, it fails to mention that we are not limited to just five core memories and are no more accurate than others.

Nowadays, individuals are taking the trendy concept of core memories and posting videos and pictures of what they deem to be core memory for them or what they anticipate will become a core memory. Although we can't predict what will become a core memory, it's natural to reminisce about our earlier lives and think about old memories. This trend does precisely that and picks up on our nostalgic feelings.

 

Q: Do memories drive our personality?

A: Although it may feel like they do, memories don't drive our personalities.

Every memory we have is prone to change because we often forget details, so our brain does its best to reconstruct the memory by filling in any gaps it finds. A clear example of this is people with amnesia; although they lose their memories, their personality doesn't necessarily change.

Our memories can contribute to parts of our identity in many ways. Certain life experiences do have the power to alter our perspectives and the way we view and interact with the world around us. Can you think of a memory that has been this powerful for you? Maybe it was something shocking like an accident or something exciting like your first kiss. Ultimately, people can regard specific memories as something that has changed them, but they’re not intrinsic to the development of our personalities.

 

Q: Can we predict what will become a “core memory”?

A: Even though emotional memories are more easily recalled than other memories, we can't predict which experiences will become a core memory for us.

At that moment, something might feel significant, but we might forget it later. Additionally, different situations can bring about different memories, so it’s not always the same few memories repeating themselves.

Our memories work in miraculous ways and can often take us by surprise. Do you have a vague memory that you recall every time you get a whiff of something or hear an old tune? Did you ever think you would remember that years down the road? Probably not – so it's hard to say which memories will stick with us and which won't.

 

Q: Can I create a “core memory”?

A: We can’t predict what ends up becoming a core memory for us, but we can do things to help a memory stick around longer.

There are three main processes regarding memory formation: encoding, storage, and retrieval/recall. The process of encoding entails how we learn things, which is usually through one of four ways: visual (how something looks), acoustic (how something sounds), semantic (what something means), and tactile (how something feels). Following this, the information is stored in our short-term or long-term memory. The former can store smaller bits of information temporarily, whereas the latter can store a lot of information indefinitely.

How do you move things from your short-term to your long-term memory? Recall. The more you try to remember things, the deeper it gets engrained into your long-term memory and the more likely you are to remember them later on. Using retrieval cues such as songs or pictures can also help you remember moments by association, as well as adequate sleep and exercise, which are well-known to help improve memory tasks and storage.

But one of the most significant factors that can determine if individuals will retain a memory is emotions. If your memory is full of emotion, you're more likely to remember it. This is why even years down the road people may say, "I'll never forget the day I got married," because that day is linked to a lot of emotions.

 

Q: What can you learn from the notion of “core memories”?

A: Despite the social media trend, it’s important to note that core memories don’t always have to be happy memories.

Fearful, sad, and angry memories have just as much potential to turn into core memories. With that, core memories can also be traumatic and become long-lasting memories for those individuals. Examples could be car accidents, assault, or losing a loved one. Such memories can lead to nightmares, avoiding certain activities, or having flashbacks. However, we chose what we consider to be a core memory. We are able to focus on both positive and negative moments of our life and know that they made us who we are today. Memories may not always be fun or comfortable to reflect on, but our values and interests can help shape what we deem a core memory.

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